How to Handle a Revelation of Badmouthing from a Mutual Acquaintance
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Recently, I had a conversation with an old college friend that left me feeling hurt and confused. We had a close bond in the past, and while catching up, I mentioned my relatively newfound friendship with a woman we both knew from college. To my surprise, my college friend expressed surprise and told me that my new friend used to badmouth me. This revelation left me wondering what to do and how to proceed with my friendship with my new friend.
It can be difficult to come to terms with the fact that someone you thought was a friend was talking badly about you behind your back. It is understandable to feel hurt and confused in this situation. However, the best way to handle this is to keep it simple and have a direct conversation with your new friend. Ask her if it is true that she used to talk badly about you and why. Explain that you were just told what she had said and that you want to get to the bottom of it.
It is possible for people to change and to learn from the mistakes of their youth. Find out what this woman’s story is and get her to tell you exactly what her beef was with you way back then, including specifics about what she used to say. Then decide if you can forgive her.
It is also important to remember that when it comes to getting a job, it is not necessarily about who you know. You have to be able to sell yourself on how the company will benefit from hiring you. You have to be able to show that you have the skills and qualifications that the company needs. It is also important to make sure that your resume is free of typos and errors.
Finally, it is important to take a good look at yourself and reframe yourself so that you show how your skills fit the needs of the company. That is why people get hired, right? Taking a good look at yourself and recognizing your strengths and weaknesses can help you move forward.
In conclusion, when you are faced with a revelation that someone you thought was a friend was badmouthing you, it is important to keep it simple and have a direct conversation with your new friend. Find out what her story is and get her to tell you exactly what her beef was with you way back then. Then decide if you can forgive her. Additionally, it is important to remember that when it comes to getting a job, it is not necessarily about who you know, but about how you can sell yourself and show that you have the skills and qualifications that the company needs. Finally, take a good look at yourself and reframe yourself so that you show how your skills fit the needs of the company.
